Love, Love, Love
It is said that love makes the world go round. Our human experience is to be driven by loving and by being loved. Poets, philosophers and playwrights for millennia have reminded us of this deep, often insatiable need over and over, in so many beautiful ways. You can barely move on social media for a Hafiz, or Rumi quote on love! So dear reader, what about you? Do you have enough love in your life? And if not, what can you do about it?
This Rumi quote on love makes it seem so simple.
Self-love and Love From Other
Love comes in many different forms, but let’s say for now that there’s two main flavours – self-love (that which we create from the inner experience), and the love we receive from others (Friends, family, intimate partners). How present are they both for you and to what level?
On a scale from 1-10 with 1 being the least amount of love, and 10 the most love you could ever experience, where are both of those for you in your life right now?
Are you getting the love you want? Is, say, a 6 score for self-love, good enough? Is your 3 for relationship enough in your world? Or would you like to create and experience more?
For most people, how good you are at receiving love and how good you are at giving love are closely related. It is only when we are fully able to open our hearts that we can let it flow both ways, but so much can get in the ways of this. We often form negative limiting beliefs, collected over years of ‘failed’ or ‘broken’ relationships or even childhood playground relationships, past wounds caused by parenting that was less than desirable, abuse, hurt, neglect, and just life’s push and pull that often causes our unconscious minds to create closure that prevents us from loving and being loved in a way that feels good.
- Is giving love conditional for you? Do you need to know you’ll get it back?
- How good are you at asking for what you want?
- Do you have an intimate relationship that makes your heart sing or are there things about it that you tolerate or even strongly dislike? How willing are you to address them?
- How honest are you with your partner and past partners?
- Do you give too much at your own expense? (see my post on the Drama Triangle for more awareness on this particular pattern)
It’s so good to bring awareness to these things and begin to open into the constrictions. Be honest with yourself. What do you expereince? I see these patterns showing up time and time again – my clients and I are all humans after all! But the good news is that all these patterns can be transformed, let go of and broken open. Cognitive Hypnotherapy is an incredible modality for change. Those patterns that you’ve been holding can, in perhaps a shorter period of time than you might imagine, become something more positive in your life. You CAN have the love you want – for yourself and in the direction of others.
“Close your eyes, fall in love, stay there”, said Rumi. Let’s make it that easy.
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What if next year were the start of something really different for you? What if next year was the year of way more love in your life than you could have imagined? It really does make the world go round. How about we start with your world?